Stay Married!

The family unit is the basis for any human society. And marriage is the foundation of the family. If marriage loses its value, then that society is in danger of collapse. Marriage and family are God’s plan to pass values and morality from one generation to the next. As goes the family, so goes the nation.

In our nation, we have more couples living together in fornication and having children than ever before. Divorce is as rampant in the church as it is with the unbeliever. We are a nation in great danger. Our moral fabric is coming apart!

You and I can make a difference! How? By making an unqualified commitment to remain loyal and faithful in our marriage for life! Too many believers have an “escape clause” in their heads if problems in the marriage arise!

Here’s the bottom line. It is the will of God for you remain married for life to your present spouse. There are basically two God sanctioned reasons for divorce in the scriptures. Only two. And if the problems a couple have don’t fit those two, then they should work together to solve them. Every marriage will have some problems because we humans are imperfect! We just have to be willing to work on ourselves and change!

The two God sanctioned reasons for divorce are 1) adultery – But I tell you, whoever dismisses and repudiates and divorces his wife, except on the grounds of unfaithfulness (sexual immorality), causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a woman who has been divorced commits adultery (Matthew 5:32) and 2) desertion by the unbelieving party – But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace (1 Corinthians 7:15). This second God sanctioned reason also covers spousal abuse and neglect.

Other than these two reasons, generally speaking, stay married! Work your problems out. The Holy Spirit and the Word are God’s two problem solvers! If we’re really committed to Jesus, these two friends will help us find answers to the problems life brings! The Holy Spirit knows you, and the Word of God will change you! All it takes is a committed will.

If you’re already divorced, walk in the grace of God! God forgives and cleanses our past! There are innocent victims of divorce. The Father doesn’t hold guilty a person who has a spouse who chooses to go their own way and forsake God’s plan. If you’re experienced this, let the mercy and grace of the Father mend your heart. And walk in forgiveness.

We should pray for our spouses daily. Here’s a great prayer. Father, help me be the best spouse my husband or wife could possibly have! Help me to be what he or she needs! Don’t pray, Lord, change my spouse! Pray, Lord, change me!

I’ll address the issues of marriage again tomorrow!

One thought on “Stay Married!

  1. The church has done a terrible job in loving spouses who are abused. They beat them over the head with "God hates divorce." "No one" should stay in abusive relationship! Just because we are a christian, does not mean we leave our common sense on the bedpost. God loves his children and he will not condem us for having wisdom and knowledge, in fact he encourages us to attain it inside his word. Nowhere does it say we are to be a punching bag for our spouse. If the abuser wants to do the hard work of changing their behavior to win us back we should encourage them to do so from afar. The Father doesn't give man permission to abuse…not even slaves. I suggest one cannot help the abuser by giving them a place to practice abuse. We are to be imitators of Jesus. Jesus has never once abused us in any way, shape, form or fashion. Jesus never expected anyone to allow someone to abuse them or to allow a family member to be abused. A man who abuses his wife has not only violated his marriage vows, but has violated biblical teaching on marriage where Paul instructs men to love their wives as Jesus loves the Church and gave his life for it.

    If there is going to be a biblical side to it, The bible says that a man should love his wife as christ loves the church. Christ didn't beat the church. It also says a woman should stay with her husband as long as he is pleased to dwell with her, if he beats her or emtionally abuses her, he cannot be PLEASED to dwell with her….And as far as a woman submitting to her husband, she is instructed to submit to her husband as the church submits unto christ, christ is portrayed taking care of, cherishing, and sacrificing for the church. A husband beating or abusing his wife in any way in not treating her as christ did the church, and as such she does not have to submit.

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